PRIVATE PARTY

I am listening to India Ire sing 'Private Party'. A celebration of the woman she has become. So, when was the last time you threw yourself a party, did all your favourite things in the world, shut out the rest of the world and sat with you, laughed, sang, danced and cried? Cleansed your body and soul of the world tardiness, war and rumours of wars, hunger, lack, leftover anger at the persons you had allowed to hurt you, treat you like crap, took all you had and never gave back, for the family who constantly don't see or hear you, the friends who choose to become your enemies, the boss who never gives you credit or the colleague who just doesn't seem to get it?

How about throwing you that party? You go all out, get your favourite stuff together; a book, bubble bath, a great wine or chocolate vanilla ice cream; or the sinfully delicious cheese cake (forget the waistline for this once), some great music, hide away and give thanks for the person you have become, for the challenges you have gone through to be here. Forgive yourself for thinking less of yourself, for giving yourself less than you are worth, for allowing people to come in and hurt you, take from you and leave you running on empty. Forgive yourself for thinking that they have power over you, that you serve no purpose, for losing sight of the greatness that you are destined for. Know for a fact that no one can really hurt you but you and those unrealistic expectations.. That you can give yourself every wonderful thing you deserve and more. That when you finally love you the way you were meant to, you will give and give and give and give and give for you have love's prerogative – to give

So, every now and then, step back and throw yourself a private party and celebrate the person you are constantly becoming, getting renewed by appreciating your abilities, your challenges, your failures which give you the opportunity to know what doesn't work and needs to be thrown out. Sing, dance, jump with glee like a little child discovering the many great things that life has in store, just waiting for you to unravel the packages it's presented as your family, your friends, work.......

Go on.......have your party.

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